If anyone ever tells you that marriage is ‘easy,’ I would take that with a grain of salt. I personally disagree, I think that a good and happy marriage takes work and effort.Every married person knows to be faithful, stay truthful and be there for her partner through good times and bad–they’re in the wedding vows, after all. But most seasoned couples would admit that some unspoken rules are vital for getting past rough patches and growing stronger as a couple. Here are a few ‘tips for a happier marriage!’
Tips For A Happier Marriage
Don’t criticize your spouse’s parents or friends. You know how it is-your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That’s why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband’s dearest friends.
Tell your spouse about any ex encounters. Whether you get a Facebook friend request or run into an old flame at your kid’s soccer game, keeping the news to yourself could backfire, despite having zero feelings for the ex.
Keep unsolicited advice to yourself. Offer your support, lend your ear, but avoid speaking in an “I know what’s best” tone.
Don’t bring up past arguments. Or at least put a statute of limitations on them.
Don’t post private thoughts or photos publicly. You may not want to be tagged in a politically charged rant he starts or he may not want you to share photos of the kids.
Log off. When your attention is focused elsewhere, your spouse is bound to feel unimportant.
The best tip that I could add to this list, is to use the word “I” instead of “you” when trying to express your feelings about something your partner does that upsets you. When you start a conversation with the word ‘you’ it instantly puts your partner on the defensive!
What additional unwritten rules would you suggest are keys to a happy marriage?
Info courtesy of MSN Living