Are You A ‘Yeller?’
According to studies in the workplace and at home, we are a nation of yellers. That’s not because we are all at the game cheering our favorite team. We are apparently yelling in anger, in frustration, distressed as a way of communicating — and venting. Researchers asked a thousand families about yelling and found that 88 percent of parents admitted yelling, screaming or shouting at their children during the year. When we are angry it is easy to lose our temper and raise your voice, but one thing I have learned is that when someone is yelling, nobody is really listening!
One of the best quotes I have ever heard, and repeated when necessary is: “Lower your voice and strengthen your argument!”
I’ll admit it, I am a reformed ‘yeller.’ It has taken me years to try to change that behavior, and now I do my best to keep my cool and not raise my voice during an argument. Not easy, but it is possible. If you really think about it though, when someone is yelling at you, are you listening to what they are saying, or thinking “you are such a jerk?” If you are passionate about what you are saying, just say it in a normal tone and chances are you will get your point across and the person you are talking to and not yelling at, will LISTEN to you!
Who is the ‘yeller‘ in your life?