While it may have seemed like Gary Allan just ‘disappeared’ after the tragic death of his wife Angela in 2004, he was just dealing with his loss the best he could. Gary tells The Boot that he had to stop doing interviews and backstage meet & greets with his fans in order to heal emotionally. As he gets ready to release his latest album, Set You Free, early next year, and has remained mostly out of the spotlight. His music became his private therapy, and he still puts one foot in front of the other as he moves forward….
Losing a loved one to suicide is one of the most difficult things to deal with in life. I have a close friend who lost her husband to suicide, and it took her years to come to terms with the loss and extreme pain. Another friend lost his Dad to suicide when he was teenager, and he told me how weird it was when his Dad died, because people just don’t know ‘what to say‘ so most say nothing at all. But when you are a celebrity, and in the spotlight, things are much different.
Gary Allan explained to The Boot about how he had to deal privately with the aftermath of his wife Angela’s suicide:
“I’m really private, and also, when I’m home, I’m home, I don’t like people in on my business. I believe that you can be overexposed. The people you see all the time, they’re not going to be around very long. When my wife passed, I stopped doing interviews and I stopped doing meet-and-greets, mostly because I sort of became this suicide ambassador. Everybody wanted to tell me their story. I realize that’s how people share with you. It’s their way of bonding and getting close, but before shows I was hearing 10 or 12 stories like that, and I was like, ‘I can’t do this every day,’ so I ended up pulling back. I enjoyed not doing them.”
I have always been a huge fan of Gary and his music and I look forward to hearing his new album, Set You Free early next year! I hope that his fans will respect his need to move on and not dwell on his painful loss, by expecting him to openly talk about this still painful topic. He wants to move forward and I respect that too!
It’s true that ‘bad things happen to good people‘ too, and this song says it so perfectly. Here’s Gary Allan’s video for “Life Ain’t Always Beautiful”