This issue seems to come up in almost every marriage after having children. Who comes first….spouse or kids? A survey of counseling professionals from YourTango.com offers surprising insights into the romantic relationships of couples with kids. Shockingly, the survey reveals that half of experts polled agree: wives should prioritize their husbands over their kids! I always thought that you should put your spouse first, and together your kids are your top priority. What do you think?
With only half of so-called ‘experts’ saying that your spouse should come first, that mean’s that 50% of the others believe that husbands can take care of themselves; kids can’t.
It just seems to me, that in a healthy relationship, your partner needs to know that they are number one in your book. And together, your kids are your top priority. If you put the kids above your husband, he feels like ‘second banana’ and that puts the kids in the ‘power position.’ I always wanted to present a ‘united front’ with the kids so they did not try to play one parent against the other. But that is just my opinion…what is yours?
Who do you believe should be your main priority: your husband or your kids?